Positive Psychology: That’s No Way to Treat Yourself!
Isn’t it amazing that psychologists concentrated on people’s extreme problems for years and only recently started researching what makes people happy?
Learning how to control my thinking about myself has not been easy these past few years. I was extremely depressed about deaths in my family and MAD at myself for not working harder or smarter.
How do you treat yourself? Do you hold anger and resentment towards your actions bottled up inside? Are you constantly saying “I should have…?”
One of my best friends, Simone Blum and I were talking about Joy TV. I have been working on The Joy Company for over a year. During this time, I have had five web designers and I still have no website. I was complaining to Simone in anger at myself for allowing this to happen. Then, I remembered what Brad Fallon said on a webinar two nights ago. Brad said he’d been working on his new site for four years. As you may know, Brad made about a million dollars in an hour online and made multimillions besides. He has a lot of money and many people working for him to get his new project up and running. I suddenly forgave myself and a huge black cloud of disgust evaporated into the nothingness from which it came.
Simone told me something that we want to share in depth with you soon for no cost. The basic idea for you to start using immediately is to treat yourself like the precious person you are. Think about the way you would talk to yourself as the little two year old you were. Be kind and gentle. Control that irritating little voice in your head. Love yourself.
And, if you start yelling at yourself, stop it.
With love and respect,
P.S. The photo of Simone and me was taken in NYC last summer while dining in the glow of fire engine lights.