Posted on February 14, 2014

Valentine Reflections

Joy Gardens Pool Photo by Meghan Fisher

I received word early this morning that my aunt passed away. Like the sky reflected in my pool, I will see my aunt’s reflection in her children and grandchildren. I will feel her caring love as I work my way through this busy weekend. It’s appropriate that she passed on Valentine’s Day because all she wanted was to be loved. I’m happy to celebrate her life every Valentine’s Day from now on. My aunt inspired me to have many children. I always loved spending time with my five cousins at her home. God bless and keep her happy. She is loved.

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Posted on January 24, 2014

Turning Thoughts into Things

“Put your thoughts to sleep, do not let them cast a shadow over the moon of your heart. Let go of thinking.” — Rumi

“We are shaped by our thoughts; we become what we think. When the mind is pure, joy follows like a shadow that never leaves.” –Buddha

“Whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.” — Philippians 4:8 King James Bible

“Hold thought steadfastly to the enduring, the good, and the true, and you will bring these into your experience proportionately to their occupancy of your thoughts.” –Mary Baker Eddy

“Everything necessary to the full and complete expression of the most boundless experience of joy is mine now.” — Ernest Holmes

From How to Have Better Sex, Lose Weight, Make Millions, and Eat Chocolate.com:
Ponder a moment about all the world’s civilizations. Without knowing about each other, in different ways, societies came to the same conclusion—there is a creator, a higher spiritual power. Ancients knew how to meditate and turn their desires into prayers and into objects. They created beautiful pottery out of sand that lasts for thousands of years. All the material exists in the universe to create everything you see manmade. Man has not learned how to create the sand, the Earth, or mankind. Man creates objects from existing resources. We can learn to use prayers, meditation, and thoughts to make things we desire to create a life of our dreams. –Jeanette Joy Fisher

Don’t you love taking a blank slate and creating something glorious? I’m so grateful for my home, which came with plain dirt surrounding the house. This wall was built from my imagination using God’s materials.

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Posted on October 16, 2013

Why You Need to Question Authority

Never let anyone tell you what you “should do!”

Author Jeanette Joy Fisher

One of my biggest mistakes was letting a doctor put me on antidepressants without doing research. Guess what I found out after my girlfriends and daughter celebrated one night with me? While having a great, hours-long dinner at my favorite restaurant, we had two glasses of wine and an after dinner fancy coffee drink. When we left, they were fine, but I was acting crazy drunk.

Maria asked, “What are you on?” I said “Nothing…wait, you mean Wellbutrin (bupropion)?”
We realized I had been acting strange for quite some time. Years.

From the many bupropion side effects I found listed online, I experienced these: confusion, trouble concentrating, unusual thoughts and behaviors, distress, dizziness, tinnitus (ringing in my ears), sleep abnormalities and impaired sleep quality, decreased memory, forgetfulness (I had trouble remembering Maria’s last name!), shortness of breath, shaking or trembling hands, dropping objects, and spilling drinks. There are many more side effects, including seizures, which I didn’t have. I was afraid I had early onset Alzheimer’s or Parkinson’s. Not being able to keep thoughts straight feels incapacitating.

I feel sorry for my friends who only knew me while taking this medication. Within a few days of weaning the antidepressant, the ringing in my ears left one ear and decreased significantly in the other. After just a few days without Wellbutrin, I started writing again. Today, I’m working on two new books and loving life. I’m much happier than I was taking the medicine. I don’t drink nearly as often and when I do, I’m not out of control.

How many people taking antidepressants are misdiagnosed with Alzheimer’s, dementia, or attention deficit disorders?

Besides taking my doctor’s advice on medicines, I allowed my friends to counsel me and I paid a coach to teach me internet marketing–all wrong. I also witnessed many of my friends paying “coaches” who gave them bad advice.

Take responsibility for your actions. Make your own decisions. Too many people let their friends and others claiming to be life coaches, who aren’t licensed counselors or trained professionals, tell them what to do. If you’re a life coach, please guide and encourage clients to their own inspired conclusions.

Center yourself and seek Divine counsel.

From my new book How to Have Better Sex, Lose Weight, Make Millions, and Eat Chocolate.com

Please tell me what you think in the comments.

Joy to You!

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Posted on October 8, 2013

New Thought & Positive Psychology in Reverse

We’ve all been told to stop dwelling on the past and on things that make us unhappy. You don’t need to be a New Thought or Oprah Unity follower to see the positive vibrations emanating outward from Twitter, Facebook, Pinterest, and even the more business-directed Linkedin. I love this exciting, uplifting, spiritual energy!

But, what do you do when sadness wells up and you feel like crying? I’ve been in the depths of darkness with my broken heart hurting so badly I had trouble breathing. I wanted my heart to burst so I would die. After all, it felt like a real heart attack. Why not let it kill me and put me out of misery? You may not have lost a child and a husband, but you most likely have lived through a broken heart.

Besides tragedies, everyday hardships cause endless suffering. When we pull ourselves up by leaning on each other and concentrating on the goodness surrounding us, we feel happiness. You get what you concentrate on, so why not think about the flowers, birds, and loving friends? Perhaps you desire so many things that you concentrate on your personal material goals and wonder why you’re still not happy.

Positive Psychology in Reverse

Try this easy, quick (only three questions) exercise without cheating yourself and reading ahead. Get a piece of paper or open a new screen. If you take the extra seconds to write down each question by long hand, your brain helps you fill in the answers.

Dwell for a moment on your discontent.

1. What makes me feel discontented? Write down a few things that make you restless, unhappy. Don’t over-think. Just jot.

2. What do I desire to ease the discontent? Next, write down what you long for to replace your discontent.

3. What are my decisions to take action to change? Base your decisions on what’s your highest sense of good for others, for you, for your life, for your business.

Your decisions form your destiny! Some days, it pays to let your unhappiness help you change your life. Discontent shapes desire. Desire sparks decisions. Decisions structure destiny. It’s your life. Chose joy!

Join us for a fun day of self-discovery at my home and celebrate. Click on the photo below after you share–>

What did you learn about yourself?

Please share your thoughts below in the comment section. It’s also Sweet to Share on Twitter, Facebook…Thank YOU!

Click on the postcard and experience my new book fun day retreat with chocolate & champagne…

How to Have Better Sex, Lose Weight, Make Millions, and Eat Chocolate.com. My late husband Brian inspired the title.

Joy to Detroit! Change Agents Bring Hope to Blight

Don’t you love the way we learn about good news online? One story takes you to another great source and you just keep going deeper.

First I read The Christian Science Monitor’s Change Agent article:

Change Agent

Detroit charity turns blight into gardens, parks, and homes

Motor City Blight Busters is fighting to bring Detroit back one abandoned building and one vacant lot at a time. The nonprofit demolishes abandoned buildings that are beyond repair, renovates homes, and cleans up parks and illegal dump sites….

This article by By Nicole Wallace originally appeared in The Chronicle of Philanthropy.

Motor City Blight Busters reminded me of people I call “Change Agents” in Detroit. I met Myrtle and Wayne Curtis, founders of “Feedom Freedom” organization in Detroit, Michigan. I wondered how they were doing after all this time, so I looked them up on Facebook and found their organization thriving. I’m thrilled for them and for Detroit.

Here is the video we filmed…

Tweet Me Right: Feedom Freedom, Detroit from Joy TV on Vimeo.